I saw you post in lietya's LJ and I came over to check out your journal. I hope that is ok.
I have an interesting point of view in all of this. I am a lesbian. My parents are Catholics (born in Poland so super-Catholic). After I came out we did not speak for about a year. Even now (6 years into my relationship with my partner) my family will still not acknowledge my partner. They will step into our house and ignore Kim. My mother will only speak Polish so that Kim is purposefully left out of the conversation. My mother prays for me and cries in front of me about my "problem". She clips wedding announcements of people that I went to school with and sends them to me. She explains how, by being gay, I have given up a real life. She says that no one will really ever love or accept me. If my parents had known about Exodus or any other type of ex-gay ministry... I would have been enrolled had I come out at 12 when I knew I was gay.
I understand where Zach is coming from and I feel for him. No one should have to deal with hatred in their own home. Maybe one day his parents will learn to love and accept him, but I doubt that will ever happen. Some people just do not have the capacity for that type of love. Even for their own children.
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on 2005-07-28 05:40 pm (UTC)I have an interesting point of view in all of this. I am a lesbian. My parents are Catholics (born in Poland so super-Catholic). After I came out we did not speak for about a year. Even now (6 years into my relationship with my partner) my family will still not acknowledge my partner. They will step into our house and ignore Kim. My mother will only speak Polish so that Kim is purposefully left out of the conversation. My mother prays for me and cries in front of me about my "problem". She clips wedding announcements of people that I went to school with and sends them to me. She explains how, by being gay, I have given up a real life. She says that no one will really ever love or accept me. If my parents had known about Exodus or any other type of ex-gay ministry... I would have been enrolled had I come out at 12 when I knew I was gay.
I understand where Zach is coming from and I feel for him. No one should have to deal with hatred in their own home. Maybe one day his parents will learn to love and accept him, but I doubt that will ever happen. Some people just do not have the capacity for that type of love. Even for their own children.