I can totally relate. I'm not really ready to talk about my situation much at this point, and in my case the husband is gainfully employed in a reasonably well paid field, but your situation does not seem all that different from mine in many ways. Hang in there. I know your mom is trying to help, but strong-arm tactics may do as much harm as good. at least she is looking out for you and Charlie. My mom is too wrapped up in her own crap to care about mine, which is par for the course.