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[charliesmum]

This morning I downloaded a really cute mood theme, and I can't figure out how to get it from my hard drive onto LJ. Can someone who's done it tell me what to do, because the editor thingy needs a URL address and it is a downloaded thing. Thanks.

Also - I need to rant a moment.

My baby sitter asked for her check this morning, because she needed the money because her daughter is coming or something. I pay her usually on Fridays, and we are both getting our paychecks tommorow, so it's not like she wouldn't be paid for the week.

She called me from the bank; it turns out I don't have the cash available. I thought I had a bit more than I did, when Kris paid for his truck on Tuesday, he told me he checked and we had $500 left. I just checked. We've got $108 left.

So, I'm on the phone with her; she tells me they can't cash the check. I apologize, telling her I thought the money was there, but with Kris's truck situation, we had to spend extra money this week. There is no 'gee, sorry you're low on funds, happens to all of us, doesn't it.' She just says, kind of angrily that she needed the money for her daughter's graduation, then hangs up on me. She sounded kind of angry, too. I appreciate the fact that she is probably panicking a bit herself, but she acted like I'd done it on purpose or something.

I've given her money when she's needed it - extra money, and she's needed quite often. I've paid her early, even when it messes up my budget. I don't like feeling badly because my financial situation makes her life more difficult. I pay her $150 a week. that's a lot of money for basically 3 hours a day. She's called me late at night for favors; which I've done (though I've taken to not always answering her calls, which is evil but it's for my own sanity).

I feel terrible that her finanicanl situation is bad, but She has a husband who supposedly works and she gets some kind of assistance for her son that I sure don't get, yet I seem to be her only source of income. I don't like that kind of pressure.

If I could get my mood theme up it would say that I am very upset.

ETA - I did the mood theme thingy thanks to forthage Pride and Predjudice. Pretty!

Comments

[carlanime.livejournal.com]

I don't blame you for being upset.

Next time she asks for early payment, you could tell her from now on payday is payday--if she can't cut you any slack, she can stop asking for it. I know that sounds harsh, but she really sounds like she needs a reminder that compassion goes both ways.

[slammerkinbabe.livejournal.com]

Word.

[slammerkinbabe.livejournal.com]

Dude, you usually pay her on Fridays? And she's flipping because you can't pay her on Wednesday?

She's out of line.

[jessii-6.livejournal.com]

I agree. WTF? Most people get pretty well on having paycheck once a MONTH. If you know you'll need the money - you can store some.
You did her a favor by writing her a cheque. She just says, kind of angrily that she needed the money for her daughter's graduation she had to knew that ahead of time, didn't she?
We're all behind you :)

[jessii-6.livejournal.com]

*know

[katje0711.livejournal.com]

I agree with what the others said. It sounds like she is totally taking you foregranted and it's time she had a wake up call! And it's not being evil if you don't answer her calls. She's taking advantage of you.

[fourthage.livejournal.com]

Since other people have the outrage at the babysitter covered, I'll take on the mood theme. You need to have all of the pictures hosted somewhere on the web. Livejournal doesn't host personal mood themes on their server like they do user icons. I use photobucket.com to host all of my pictures, it's a free service with an option to upgrade for more space.

[charliesmum.livejournal.com]

Thanks! I did it, hurrah!

[wolfgangmozart.livejournal.com]

Word; she is totally out of line. Has this been a problem in the past? Might be time to get another babysitter.

[silverhill.livejournal.com]

I'd have a lot more sympathy for her if it were her regular payday. Since she asked you for a favor -- paying her early -- she really has no right to complain.

I can't ask my work for an advance on pay. (And, in fact, a couple weeks ago, they screwed up the pay and everyone got paid a day late. And all we got was an "Oop! Sorry.")

I don't blame you for being upset. She's behaving completely inappropriately.

[cactus-wren.livejournal.com]

Babysitter kind of has alot of nerve. She shouldn't count on you being able to pay her in advance. If you can, great, but if it's not possible, she doesn't have a right to get snappish about it. I've never had a job where I could ask for pay in advance - well, maybe the daycare I worked at years ago, but the problem there was actually getting paid at all, not even getting an advance. She would write everyone's checks on payday, and the first few would go through, but then they'd start bouncing. Her excuse was 'My first obligation is paying for my son's college, you'll just have wait.' Then she would end up paying the bounced check fees, and we would give her copies of the fees from checks we had bounced, trying to pay our own bills and she'd pay those, too. What a lovely woman.

[lizzyrose89.livejournal.com]

*points up*

What they said.