I'm really sorry that happened to you. Real friends are rare, and I'm sorry your mother couldn't understand that.
Just a quick story that's probably irrelvant, but it might illustrate that someday you'll be able to make your own decisions:
My parents live in one of those over 55 communities, and she told me this story of one couple they are friends with. She was Jewish, he Puerto Rican, they met and fell in love in High School. Her mother and father were so horrified at this, they moved towns to get her away from him. She married a nice Jewish boy eventually, and had some kids. Years into the marriage, she and her husband both decided this wasn't working and divorced - they are still very good friends - and she immediately started searching for her first love. She found him, he, too, had married and divorced, and they married and have been together ever since. My mom said they still act like newlyweds.
Now this is nothing like your story, but my point is, when you are on your own, hopefully you can find your friends again, and continue the friendship that meant so much to you, and your mom can't do anything about it.
Meanwhile, the good thing about the internet is there are people like me who are willing to listen should you ever need to complain. I make a pretty good cyber-mom! :)
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ninetydegrees
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on 2005-06-13 01:05 pm (UTC)Just a quick story that's probably irrelvant, but it might illustrate that someday you'll be able to make your own decisions:
My parents live in one of those over 55 communities, and she told me this story of one couple they are friends with. She was Jewish, he Puerto Rican, they met and fell in love in High School. Her mother and father were so horrified at this, they moved towns to get her away from him. She married a nice Jewish boy eventually, and had some kids. Years into the marriage, she and her husband both decided this wasn't working and divorced - they are still very good friends - and she immediately started searching for her first love. She found him, he, too, had married and divorced, and they married and have been together ever since. My mom said they still act like newlyweds.
Now this is nothing like your story, but my point is, when you are on your own, hopefully you can find your friends again, and continue the friendship that meant so much to you, and your mom can't do anything about it.
Meanwhile, the good thing about the internet is there are people like me who are willing to listen should you ever need to complain. I make a pretty good cyber-mom! :)