One thing that helped Colin was the word please, used toward him.
Another thing, that may help and may not, is explaining (sometimes over-explaining). Does Charlie understand that dishes don't clean themselves? That if nobody stops him from hitting someone else, then nobody will stop anyone else hitting him? That part of taking a test is paying attention only to that test and ignoring distractions?
Is there an approved way for him to demonstrate being angry or frustrated? Does he have a way to tell his teachers that he needs a time out so he can calm down?
In a way, he is three again. Teenage hormone storms, social difficulties, and not feeling in control of himself is probably making him very cranky and unsure/afraid.
If you think it'll help, I'm willing to talk to Charlie on IM or e-mail (with your oversight of course). I'm also willing to introduce him to Colin, in the hopes that the two boys make friends.
One last thing. Charlie is having difficulties: this does not mean you did, or are doing, something wrong. This does not mean you are stupid. This most especially does not mean your sister is right.
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on 2011-01-26 09:17 pm (UTC)Another thing, that may help and may not, is explaining (sometimes over-explaining). Does Charlie understand that dishes don't clean themselves? That if nobody stops him from hitting someone else, then nobody will stop anyone else hitting him? That part of taking a test is paying attention only to that test and ignoring distractions?
Is there an approved way for him to demonstrate being angry or frustrated? Does he have a way to tell his teachers that he needs a time out so he can calm down?
In a way, he is three again. Teenage hormone storms, social difficulties, and not feeling in control of himself is probably making him very cranky and unsure/afraid.
If you think it'll help, I'm willing to talk to Charlie on IM or e-mail (with your oversight of course). I'm also willing to introduce him to Colin, in the hopes that the two boys make friends.
One last thing. Charlie is having difficulties: this does not mean you did, or are doing, something wrong. This does not mean you are stupid. This most especially does not mean your sister is right.
::HUGS::