What a snide little note, and the implications that "she knows" he's not MEANING to be a burglar [but would anyway] is just so charming.
Is it possible for you, or he, to explain that the flip side of the autistic coin is that oftentimes (obviously not with every autistic person, but he's a sweet, accommodating kid) someone is *more* likely to a) appreciate a clear, firm direction and b) actually listen to and remember the rule?
My problem was always applying rules too strictly and not realizing that the world needs flexibility, but trust me, "Do not enter someone's house when they are not home without previous permission" would be obeyed quite precisely. ;) While it's insulting that Charlie should need to listen to her assume that he's an untrustworthy wretch, perhaps allowing her one explanation would make her feel more secure and therefore more likely to leave *him* alone.
Or not, since I'm kind of bad at predicting neurotypical behavior when perpetrated by the illogical and easily offended. I dunno.
All I know is, I'd much rather live next to Charlie than the teen boys who DO live next door to us, who have actually climbed over our fence and broken it, and don't respond even to being bellowed at about trespassing. He doesn't deserve her shit.
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on 2011-03-15 12:43 pm (UTC)Is it possible for you, or he, to explain that the flip side of the autistic coin is that oftentimes (obviously not with every autistic person, but he's a sweet, accommodating kid) someone is *more* likely to a) appreciate a clear, firm direction and b) actually listen to and remember the rule?
My problem was always applying rules too strictly and not realizing that the world needs flexibility, but trust me, "Do not enter someone's house when they are not home without previous permission" would be obeyed quite precisely. ;) While it's insulting that Charlie should need to listen to her assume that he's an untrustworthy wretch, perhaps allowing her one explanation would make her feel more secure and therefore more likely to leave *him* alone.
Or not, since I'm kind of bad at predicting neurotypical behavior when perpetrated by the illogical and easily offended. I dunno.
All I know is, I'd much rather live next to Charlie than the teen boys who DO live next door to us, who have actually climbed over our fence and broken it, and don't respond even to being bellowed at about trespassing. He doesn't deserve her shit.