Our sons are almost of an age, so we get to go through this sort-of together, yay. I guess Kieran and I must have a good relationship...he told me a few weeks ago that he had his first wet dream. Outside, I was like "Oh, cool! Your body's getting ready for reproduction. Some societies they give girls parties when they have their first periods; we should do something special." Inside I was like "???wtf what do I say now??" I guess I handled it okay. He doesn't seem in the least embarrassed or ashamed - not at all like what my experience was like. And he likes girls too, but where he differs from Charlie is I'm wondering if he'll ever actually tell a girl that. So far his courtship method seems to be pretending he doesn't like them, and it's not going very well. I don't know what advice to give there.
I feel for Charlie...I hope he can figure it out by rote, somehow, if he can't feel his way through. Charles (my fiance) has had to do that, and he does it very well. If he doesn't exactly feel the "proper" emotion at a given situation, he at least has learned what's expected of him. I hope Charlie will develop those skills. I can't even imagine what growing up is like for a kid who has to take literally all the schizophrenic crap our society dishes out. I hope he can cut through it all somehow.
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on 2011-07-26 11:56 pm (UTC)I feel for Charlie...I hope he can figure it out by rote, somehow, if he can't feel his way through. Charles (my fiance) has had to do that, and he does it very well. If he doesn't exactly feel the "proper" emotion at a given situation, he at least has learned what's expected of him. I hope Charlie will develop those skills. I can't even imagine what growing up is like for a kid who has to take literally all the schizophrenic crap our society dishes out. I hope he can cut through it all somehow.