Sometimes you just never really know a person. I can tell this story here because we don't have this person in common on LJ.
Back in January I started hanging out with two girlfriends, whom I had met initially through LJ, but obviously who live near me. For about 4 months the three of us were great friends, emailed, hung out all the time, got dinner, went shopping, etc.etc. All the things that girlfriends do.
Then around...May, I started noticing that one of these friends wasn't really commenting in my journal anymore, nor responding to my comments in hers. There had been no falling out, no anything. When there were group email conversations, she'd never reply to me. I invited her out once and got a blunt reply; I thought it was very strange, and tucked it away. Finally I invited her and other friend out once more on purpose and got another equally (if not more) blunt reply in return. At that point, I decided something was completely screwy, but as a grown-ass woman I didn't have time to deal with it.
Long story a bit shorter, I met another mutual LJ/RL friend recently, and found out she'd done nearly the exact same thing to this person: dropped them like a hot potato.
All of which is by saying: at this point, write them off. You're a grown ass woman, and if they're not adult enough to tell you there's a problem, it's their drama, not yours.
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ninetydegrees
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on 2007-06-06 02:10 am (UTC)Back in January I started hanging out with two girlfriends, whom I had met initially through LJ, but obviously who live near me. For about 4 months the three of us were great friends, emailed, hung out all the time, got dinner, went shopping, etc.etc. All the things that girlfriends do.
Then around...May, I started noticing that one of these friends wasn't really commenting in my journal anymore, nor responding to my comments in hers. There had been no falling out, no anything. When there were group email conversations, she'd never reply to me. I invited her out once and got a blunt reply; I thought it was very strange, and tucked it away. Finally I invited her and other friend out once more on purpose and got another equally (if not more) blunt reply in return. At that point, I decided something was completely screwy, but as a grown-ass woman I didn't have time to deal with it.
Long story a bit shorter, I met another mutual LJ/RL friend recently, and found out she'd done nearly the exact same thing to this person: dropped them like a hot potato.
All of which is by saying: at this point, write them off. You're a grown ass woman, and if they're not adult enough to tell you there's a problem, it's their drama, not yours.