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First heatbreaks
Jul. 26th, 2011 06:46 amSo, Charlie's been hanging out with these girls at the pool. One of them, lets call her Lily, he was quite obviously smitten with.
I've checked out these girls on Facebook, and, to my (probably) overprotective mother's eyes, they seem SO much older than him; you know how girls can be at 13 and 14 years old. I was assured by someone who knows that these girls are nice, though, and so I tried not to worry to much.
I'd been out for a bit last night, and when I came home, he looked very sad. Turns out that Lily has a boyfriend, and last night Charlie had this whole texting conversation with this girl basically begging her to be his girlfriend.
You guys, it was so sad. We went through his texts together, and they just about broke my heart. He really thought she 'loved him'.
Some of the stuff he said was not very appropriate or nice, so I talked to him about that, and I did make him text her back and apoligise for saying mean things about her boyfriend.
I also told him to back off for awhile, He has trouble with boundaries, and I really don't want a repeat of him being accused of being 'creepy'. He said to me he wanted to find a way to make her like him, and I had to tell him that it is just not possible. Try explaining the 'nice guy' syndrome to a heartbroken and autistic 13 year old. It's quite the challenge.
She did text him back last night - the phone is in my room, so I hear the text come through. I didn't look at it - tempting as it is, because I don't want to invade his privacy. I am hoping she said something nice, though. (And I'm hoping he wakes up soon so I can see what the text says!)
Meanwhile my BFF's daughter just had her very first relationship end. She'd been seeing this boy for a while, and she was sure he was 'the one', but recently he told her he just didn't feel the same way. She was also heartbroken, although we suspect in the end it's more about losing a boyfriend in general than losing him. I'm going over there on Thursday - her mother and I had promised her awhile ago that if/when they broke up we'd get together and have ice cream and talk about our breakups.
So, flist. What was your first heartbreak? And do you have and advice for my boy and my friend's daughter?
I've checked out these girls on Facebook, and, to my (probably) overprotective mother's eyes, they seem SO much older than him; you know how girls can be at 13 and 14 years old. I was assured by someone who knows that these girls are nice, though, and so I tried not to worry to much.
I'd been out for a bit last night, and when I came home, he looked very sad. Turns out that Lily has a boyfriend, and last night Charlie had this whole texting conversation with this girl basically begging her to be his girlfriend.
You guys, it was so sad. We went through his texts together, and they just about broke my heart. He really thought she 'loved him'.
Some of the stuff he said was not very appropriate or nice, so I talked to him about that, and I did make him text her back and apoligise for saying mean things about her boyfriend.
I also told him to back off for awhile, He has trouble with boundaries, and I really don't want a repeat of him being accused of being 'creepy'. He said to me he wanted to find a way to make her like him, and I had to tell him that it is just not possible. Try explaining the 'nice guy' syndrome to a heartbroken and autistic 13 year old. It's quite the challenge.
She did text him back last night - the phone is in my room, so I hear the text come through. I didn't look at it - tempting as it is, because I don't want to invade his privacy. I am hoping she said something nice, though. (And I'm hoping he wakes up soon so I can see what the text says!)
Meanwhile my BFF's daughter just had her very first relationship end. She'd been seeing this boy for a while, and she was sure he was 'the one', but recently he told her he just didn't feel the same way. She was also heartbroken, although we suspect in the end it's more about losing a boyfriend in general than losing him. I'm going over there on Thursday - her mother and I had promised her awhile ago that if/when they broke up we'd get together and have ice cream and talk about our breakups.
So, flist. What was your first heartbreak? And do you have and advice for my boy and my friend's daughter?