Anonomice and other stuff

[charliesmum]

I'd had my comments blocked from anyone posting anonymously because I'd been getting bot-spammed, but I have a few RL friends who I know read my journal, and I've decided to allow anonymous posting again, in case they ever feel the need to comment to the stuff I'm burbling on about.

Just FYI.

Hopefully I won't get those weird Asian spam things again.

It is, as you are all well aware, the 1st anniversary of the London bombings. It is interesting how, when things like this happen, the world wobbles but always manages to right itself, more or less. At least the UK didn't invade an irrelevant country in response to this bombing.

The husband is home today because he had a migrane. In typical fashion, he lay in bed moaning and commenting on the wallpaper in Death's foyer until I went out and got him some migrane medicine, (despite the fact he was sure it wasn't a migrane but rather some ailment only House could diagnose) and now he is feeling much better, and is at home, sort of in my way.

And finally, I need some etiquette advice.

Charlie has a 'baseball party' at one of his teammate's house, but I have no idea who he belongs to, because I have no idea what his surname is. I think he's one of the coaches' kids, but I'm not sure. So I have the address, but no way to contact the host/hostess.

I don't like to go to parties empty handed, because I was raised to believe it was polite to bring some sort of hostess gift/food (depending) or at least offering to help. However, could it be construed as an insult if I showed up with brownies or something if I wasn't specifically told I could bring something?

Comments

[cactus-wren.livejournal.com]

I doubt they would be insulted if you bring something with you, but if they haven't indicated to bring anything, they probably have it all taken care of. So I guess you could go either way, do what makes you most comfortable.

[gehayi.livejournal.com]

Well, if you have the address, why don't you use Reverse Lookup? Then you'll find out the phone number (and the surname) of the people Charlie's going to be visiting, and you can call the parents, tell them you'd like to bring something for the host and hostess, and ask if they have any preferences about food. (It would be awful if you baked delicious brownies and someone was allergic to chocolate, for instance.)

[charliesmum.livejournal.com]

Thanks for that. I didn't know about that site!

I'll give it a shot.

[zambonigirl.livejournal.com]

Per Miss Manners herself, do not bring something for the party at large, but something for only the hosts. So, a bottle of wine or a plant would not be out of order. Anything "gifty", in other words.

As for the hubby...I don't know. I'd tell you to tell him to go pick up the gift so as to remove him from your hair, but that could be a disaster unless he's really good at that stuff. Anyway, I hope you have a good evening at the party, and I hope Charlie does, too.

[enchanting-ella.livejournal.com]

i agree. i have lots of doo's and people always ask what to bring...usually i make them bring something to drink that way it gets shared. if a party or dinner party nothing but only 2 people i know ever turn up empty handed. wine, flowers, brazil nuts in chocolate for the hostess, she may share or may not. if you dont know them take in the car a wine, and juice for the kids just in case and then hubbie can be sent out to the car to get said things. lol then if not needed you have cookies or juice to be devoured at home. works both ways.
i have never turned up to anything even at my mums empty handed.
have fun.