oh crud! late again. sorry to not have posted sooner, but you are not being unreasonable. this teacher is suposed to be trained for this type of behavior. it is expected and dealt with. if she cant deal with charlie, she is in the wrong position. your tax dollars go to support the school. if you were being unreasonable, then they have the right to gently tell you your son is no longer a viable member. but, and this appears to be the case, they have a job to perform and that is to take your child, disabilities and all, and educate him. that is what they are paid to do. taking drugs isnt the answer to everything. you as the parent have the right to say no. if it would help him, then it might be a consideration for you. if it wont help him, then it is a waste of both time, money and health. my brother is ADHA, badly. he was on ritalin when younger and it helped him. he never learned to deal with it though and so as an adult, he is not as responsible as he would like to think he is. his daughter is just like him. and she needed the drugs desperately to be able to function. his other daughter, i dont feel is ADHA but they put her on ritalin too. now she uses it as and excuse to not study or not do well in her school work. (same niece that has me worried about my daughter.) dont be afraid to step up on behalf of charlie and let the school know they arent doing their job. be bold. that social worker sounds more like she has too many cases and is just going along with the school so it is less work on her. as a teacher i have thought to myself hundreds of times, when talking to a parent about a students horrible behavior, "you know what this kid is like at home. you know what a brat/pain-in-the-ass etc. he/she really is." but i cant say that to a parent. they get defensive. they know their kid is a butthead but they wont admit it. you know charlie isnt how they are portraying him. you know him well. give examples, suggest ways to help him cope with the change, give them ideas on how you do things at home that might help at school. suggest a webcam. if daycares can do it, why cant schools? come on, there has got to be some e-money available. you know, all schools with special needs kids need a webcam so parents can peek in. what better way of showing how the school functions? hmmm... sorry this is long but i am upset that they would cop out like that. dont take too much. i dont know how but if you can get a lawyer. they eat this stuff up. my mother had to take a lawyer several times to the ards with my niece. it worked.
end of rant - give charlie extra hugs and tell him texas thinks he is great.
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on 2004-09-15 05:16 pm (UTC)sorry to not have posted sooner, but you are not being unreasonable. this teacher is suposed to be trained for this type of behavior. it is expected and dealt with. if she cant deal with charlie, she is in the wrong position. your tax dollars go to support the school. if you were being unreasonable, then they have the right to gently tell you your son is no longer a viable member. but, and this appears to be the case, they have a job to perform and that is to take your child, disabilities and all, and educate him. that is what they are paid to do.
taking drugs isnt the answer to everything. you as the parent have the right to say no. if it would help him, then it might be a consideration for you. if it wont help him, then it is a waste of both time, money and health.
my brother is ADHA, badly. he was on ritalin when younger and it helped him. he never learned to deal with it though and so as an adult, he is not as responsible as he would like to think he is. his daughter is just like him. and she needed the drugs desperately to be able to function. his other daughter, i dont feel is ADHA but they put her on ritalin too. now she uses it as and excuse to not study or not do well in her school work. (same niece that has me worried about my daughter.)
dont be afraid to step up on behalf of charlie and let the school know they arent doing their job. be bold. that social worker sounds more like she has too many cases and is just going along with the school so it is less work on her.
as a teacher i have thought to myself hundreds of times, when talking to a parent about a students horrible behavior, "you know what this kid is like at home. you know what a brat/pain-in-the-ass etc. he/she really is." but i cant say that to a parent. they get defensive. they know their kid is a butthead but they wont admit it.
you know charlie isnt how they are portraying him. you know him well. give examples, suggest ways to help him cope with the change, give them ideas on how you do things at home that might help at school.
suggest a webcam. if daycares can do it, why cant schools? come on, there has got to be some e-money available.
you know, all schools with special needs kids need a webcam so parents can peek in. what better way of showing how the school functions? hmmm...
sorry this is long but i am upset that they would cop out like that.
dont take too much. i dont know how but if you can get a lawyer. they eat this stuff up. my mother had to take a lawyer several times to the ards with my niece. it worked.
end of rant - give charlie extra hugs and tell him texas thinks he is great.