I remember Forever

[charliesmum]

Forever, by Judy Blume is 30 years old this year, which means it had already been out about 4 years by the time I read it in the 7th grade.

Still, I remember it being the Big New Thing, though I suppose the idea of sex was the Big New Thing, and the book was just there to illustrate it. (And I need take a moment to thank my mother who never, ever censored what I read and was the one who bought the book for me.)

Yeah, it was pretty shocking, and as immature 11/12 year olds, we did immature things; I knew girls who circled the 'dirty bits' in the book, and I remember sitting around with friends reading those dirty bits and giggling at the description of Ralph (and if you don't know who, or rather what, Ralph is, then I suggest reading the book right now.)

But was it harmful to us? Of course not.

The things I brought from that book were that the boy and the girl should love each other before doing it, and that you should be 18 before doing it, pieces of advice I wound up ignoring and wish I hadn't.

In today's climate I think it is more important than ever that books like Forever reach its intended audience because it shows what happen, not when pre-marital sex goes wrong*, but when it goes right. The two main characters meet, date, get to know and trust each other, fall in love and then discuss and make the decision to have sex. Ultimately the book is about Katherine's first real love. It's about growing up, and the fact that censors focused, and continue to focus on only the dirty bits like a bunch of immature 12 year old giggling girls is really, really sad.

*For a kind of silly book about pre-marital sex going wrong, try and find Mr and Mrs BoJo Jones. If nothing else you get a sense of how far women's rights have actually come.

Comments

[dindin.livejournal.com]

Never read Forever. I did, however find Wifey on my parents bookshelf and read the "dirty" parts to my friends.

[lietya.livejournal.com]

Now *that* was a disturbing book which represented sex in an unhealthy-for-kids kind of way. Not that I seem to have been traumatized by it. :)

[dindin.livejournal.com]

True, true. I think I had enough other outside sources that it didn't really sink in.

[charliesmum.livejournal.com]

I found Fear of Flying on my mother's nightstand, and started to read that when I was rather too young for that book. Even dirtier than Wifey, if you can believe it. :)

[dindin.livejournal.com]

LOL. I eventually read FoF, like in/after college basically because I felt like I should read it, you know? Total snooze fest.

[charliesmum.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it is one of those 'revolutionary' books whose PR is better than the actual story. Such as it was.

The only Erika Jong book I liked was about a girl in the 1800's, (or 1700's I can't remember) and I don't remember the name of it. Had lots of sex and stuff, but it was interesting, in a soft porn sort of way.