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[charliesmum]

Sorry. I've been neglecting LJ. It's so hard, since I only get 60 minutes at work at 10 minute intervals, going on LJ at work just doesn't work. And when I do I just try to read everyone's post as quickly as possible so I can catch up before it kicks me off.

Been having issues with Charlie at school, still. He's going through a Thing. He's getting very confrontational and angry, and I'm not sure what to do about it. Well, I know what to DO about it. I just don't know how to make it stop. So, there's that.

Stuff with The Boyfriend is still good though. He's funny. We talk the 'future' sometimes, but it kinda scares him. He's so used to the life he's been leading, the idea of changing it freaks him out a bit. It's sweet really. Whereas I, when I make a decision in my head, I'm all ready to make that leap. I have to learn to be in the moment.

I have to do the question thingy, but I'm running out of time. So I'll be brief.

I've had angsty moments throughout my life. I think there were some times in junior high where it crossed my mind in a more serious way, but I never really thought I'd do it.

I probably would have done it when I had my nervous break-down, I was severely suicidal then, but fortunately at nine years old the idea was outside my realm of understanding.


Day 01 - Your current relationship
Day 02 - Where you’d like to be in 10 years
Day 03 - Your views on drugs and alcohol
Day 04 - Your views on religion
Day 05 - A time you thought about ending your own life
Day 06 - Write 30 interesting facts about yourself.
Day 07 - Your zodiac sign and if you think it fits your personality
Day 08 - A moment you felt the most satisfied with your life
Day 09 - How you hope your future will be like
Day 10 - Discuss your first love and first kiss.
Day 11 - Put your ipod on shuffle and write 10 songs that pop up.
Day 12 - Bullet your whole day.
Day 13 - Somewhere you’d like to move or visit
Day 14 - Your earliest memory
Day 15 - Your favorite blogs
Day 16 - Your views on mainstream music
Day 17 - Your highs and lows of this past year
Day 18 - Your beliefs
Day 19 - Disrespecting your parents
Day 20 - How important you think education is
Day 21 - One of your favorite shows
Day 22 - How have you changed in the past 2 years?
Day 23 - Give pictures of 5 guys who are famous and who you find attractive.
Day 24 - Your favorite movie and what it’s about
Day 25 - Someone who fascinates you and why
Day 26 - What kind of person attracts you?
Day 27 - A problem that you have had
Day 28 - Something that you miss
Day 29 - Goals for the next 30 days
Day 30 - Your highs and lows this month

Comments

[placeboweek.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry Charlie is going through a Thing. Sounds like a teenager Thing. Your boyfriend sounds like Steven. :)

[brownkitty.livejournal.com]

More details about Charlie's Thing, please? I might be able to offer some stuff to try.

[charliesmum.livejournal.com]

Where to even start...This whole year he's been having trouble controling himself. He had a crush on a girl and would sort of follow her around, and she got scared, and he got in trouble, and I had a conference with her parents that was just awful because they seem to think Charlie is some kind of pervert, but he doesn't understand social cues or anything.

And then this girl who he used to like, and who used to like him started being mean to him, and he would retalliate badly, and wound up getting detention because he hit her.

Recently his art teacher was trying to get him to clean up, and he wouldn't, and she tried to block his way when he was leaving so he pushed against her arm and ran off, and since that was 'laying hands on a teacher' he got suspended for a day.

Then yesterday he was playing with a toy while taking a quiz, and the teacher took it away, and he got really disruptive and confrontentational and when his aide put the toy in her pocket he grabbed it from her pocket, thus 'touching a teacher' again. He got detention.

He's just been saying things like 'you're not the boss of me' and just getting very confrontational and angry and it's like he's 3 all over again when he couldn't control his impulses and would push kids down and run out of the room at day-care.

And his grades are slipping. He failed COOKING, for heaven's sake, because he wouldn't clean up or finish the work assigned to him.

I'm not sure how to work with him so he learns he can't do that sort of thing.

Sigh.

[brownkitty.livejournal.com]

One thing that helped Colin was the word please, used toward him.

Another thing, that may help and may not, is explaining (sometimes over-explaining). Does Charlie understand that dishes don't clean themselves? That if nobody stops him from hitting someone else, then nobody will stop anyone else hitting him? That part of taking a test is paying attention only to that test and ignoring distractions?

Is there an approved way for him to demonstrate being angry or frustrated? Does he have a way to tell his teachers that he needs a time out so he can calm down?

In a way, he is three again. Teenage hormone storms, social difficulties, and not feeling in control of himself is probably making him very cranky and unsure/afraid.

If you think it'll help, I'm willing to talk to Charlie on IM or e-mail (with your oversight of course). I'm also willing to introduce him to Colin, in the hopes that the two boys make friends.

One last thing. Charlie is having difficulties: this does not mean you did, or are doing, something wrong. This does not mean you are stupid. This most especially does not mean your sister is right.

::HUGS::

[charliesmum.livejournal.com]

Thank you. You have good suggestions there. I think I will try to find something he can say for when he needs a time out. That does sound like something he needs.

I don't always think he can see two steps ahead. He gets stuck in the moment, and does tend to fixate on things.

I'd love to IM with you and have you talk to Charlie - and he would probably LOVE to have an internet pal in Colin.

LJ has IM thingy right? (I don't do it very often)

I can't remember if you and I are FB friends or not. Terrible I know but sometimes I forget the Real Life Names of my LJ friends, and I have 200 plus people on FB, so I don't always see everyone all the time. I know how to IM on Facebook. :)

[brownkitty.livejournal.com]

Morgen Bredell Kirby on Facebook.
MonRed1 on AIM
mahoganycat on YIM, but I don't have that up very often.
mahoganycat @ yahoo . com if you want to play e-mail tag with me.

I'll ask Colin if he wants to participate, but I'm not going to tell him he has to :)

[drakonlily.livejournal.com]

<3 I was thinking about you. I'm glad to hear from you

[scarlet-begonia.livejournal.com]

Hope you and Charlie can get through your rough patch all right...