Packing is not fun

[charliesmum]

Last year I did a major clean of my house, and got rid of tons of stuff, and therefore thought to myself that packing to move won't be too hard - at least I'd cleaned out the closets, right?

Yeah, right.

It's amazing how many things a person can accumulate that you stop taking any notice of until it is time to do something with it. All these little knick-knacks and pictures and stuff stuffed in drawers. (and STBX isn't helping as he hasn't even started packing anything, but that's a different rant)

It's even harder as I am seriously downsizing, so I won't have that much room for stuff, and I am feeling like I want to start completely afresh, with all new everything, which makes me feel like chucking everything and not packing anything; this is, of course, simply not feasible.

So I keep getting out boxes, standing in the middle of the room, then wandering away because it is just very overwhelming.

I put an advert on Craigslist to sell a bunch of stuff, and I suppose we need to do a yard sale. So, if anyone in the vicinity wants any furniture or things, let me know! I have a pretty nice kitchen table with 3 chairs that I'll sell for cheap.

I'm a bit worried that my new home is less like a place one moves to and more like a place that one ends up, but I tell myself it will do for now, and it is just one step in the major sucess that will be the rest of my life. Right? Right.

Comments

heaps of admiration and hugs

[enchanting-ella.livejournal.com]

you amaze me. I wish i was as brave as you and could just chuck it all and start afresh, i guess him not living in the house or in the country again makes it a little more delusional that i am living alone, but i have him paying most of the bills, (well once he starts getting paid again) this is huge and you are strong and amazing and poky wont be for long. good luck with the yard sale etc.

[brownkitty.livejournal.com]

I'm a bit worried that my new home is less like a place one moves to and more like a place that one ends up, but I tell myself it will do for now, and it is just one step in the major sucess that will be the rest of my life. Right? Right.

It's not either one. It's a place that you'll pass through onto something bigger and better and more successful. It's part of the "sit there and cry" stage before you get back up, brush the gravel off your scraped knees and hands, and go back to the game.

::HUGS::

[chavvah.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean about starting afresh. When I left my aunt's, one of the things that I most resented was having to take along her stupid hand-me-down couches. Every time I sat on that furniture was a reminder of the fact that I had been forcibly displaced from the only home I'd ever known.

Over time, you will be able to surround yourself with things and people that make you feel at home.

[hihankara.livejournal.com]

Lets see...if you end up having to buy boxes, Home Depot is cheapest.

And as for packing, I suggest having a "packing party" where you invite your close girlfriends over, get a bottle or three of cheap wine and order pizza and have at it. Make them do the kitchen, thats the worst part. And this way you can have a little bit of fun and arent doing all the work alone.

I know that your new home will be full of love and brightness, and I wish you all the best. You deserve it!

[sphinxvictorian.livejournal.com]

I understand your worries about the new place. Just make it as homey as possible, put up some fun posters or prints and throw some pretty fabric or scarves around the place. Make it yours, even if you're just passing through. Then it won't feel so final, maybe. Just don't do what my mom did, when she moved to LA after my dad died. She lived out of suitcases, and the only pieces of furniture she had were an IKEA chair and bookcase and a twin bed. She lived that way for 5 years!

Anyway, best of luck in your efforts to reduce the stuff to a manageable size. Sometimes you just have to get ruthless and sell or give away as many things as you can to reduce the pile. Again, I've had experience of that too, packing up all the junk that had accumulated in my family house after Mom died.

[sixth-light.livejournal.com]

The First Rule of Moving: you always have more stuff than you thought you did. Always. If you can swing it, we always find it worth hiring a skip to get rid of all the rubbish - there's always more of that than you'd expect, too.

Your new apartment will only be a place you "end up" if you think of it that way. I find the important thing in new flats is to make sure all the stuff that you associate with home goes up first - that helps make it feel like _your_ place from the start, rather than just somewhere you happen to be.

[yelena-r0ssini.livejournal.com]

Let me know when the yard sale is; it's not like I NEED more stuff but I probably want more, I'm such a thrifting/yard sale addict. Also, I have a terrible time getting rid of stuff even when I blatantly don't need it anymore; when we were moving from PA my mom and I had to take turns getting rid of each other's stuff so we didn't hoard unnecessary crap.

On a completely unrelated note, what are you up to this Sunday?

[charliesmum.livejournal.com]

Sunday evening I'm having dinner with my parents and sister for my mom's birthday, and I may be painting earlier that day too, bt I don't know. If this is about cookies, let me know! Carolyn has my phone number, I think.

I will let you know about the yard sale as soon as I get it organized!

[yelena-r0ssini.livejournal.com]

It is actually not about cookies but about birthday cake. Lysander's birthday party is at our crib from 3-ish to whenever, and I thought you and Charlie might like to swing by and eat some cake or something. I promise the birthday boy won't tree anyone like he did at Charlie's birthday party... ;)

[charliesmum.livejournal.com]

Oh, Lysander was SO funny that day! I am going to dinner with my family for my mom's birthday around then, but if I can manage it I would LOVE to stop by. How old is he now?

[yelena-r0ssini.livejournal.com]

He's FOUR. Can you believe it?

[slammerkinbabe.livejournal.com]

I'm a bit worried that my new home is less like a place one moves to and more like a place that one ends up, but I tell myself it will do for now, and it is just one step in the major sucess that will be the rest of my life. Right? Right.

I hope there's no sarcasm here, because this is speaking for truth!!! :)

Seriously, honey, you rock, and my biggest hope and strong belief for you is that stuff will be bumpy from here on out -- it always is -- but will be getting steadily better and happier for you.

::hugs hugs hugs::