Yeah, I know, I'm an idiot

[charliesmum]

So Charlie's friend Devon, he's the son of the woman who decided to stop talking to me, and he made a comment about how his mom had 'issues' with me, and something about not being allowed to play with Charlie for awhile or something, and I got fed up and I called her, which, yeah, was stupid. That rushing sound was my pride being tossed out the window.

Apparently I did things she 'doesn't want to get into', what I honestly can't imagine, and she just 'doesn't want to hang out with me' any more.

And I'm really upset that it upsets me this much.

I wish I knew what I did. And at any rate, you'd think what ever sins I transgressed would be mitigated by the numorous times I watched their demon child so they could have some time alone, or all the things I gave them when they had the foster kids, or the fact I was there for her when they were going through all the drama with the foster kids. I once raced to the school with clothes for their son when he had an accident because Jennifer wasn't in the area.

And I really hate not getting in the last word. Don't you hate it when you really want to call back and say 'yeah, well...' but you know it is just going to wind up hurting you more?

Defriending sucks.

Comments

[silverhill.livejournal.com]

Apparently I did things she 'doesn't want to get into'

That, to me, says that she's completely unjustified. Maybe you did nothing wrong. Maybe you did something little that's worth an eye-roll but not a severing of friendship.

But if you did something that was worth cutting contact, my guess is you'd already know what it was. And if you didn't know, she'd probably tell you.

Her behavior seems very bizarre to me. I think she knows she's being inappropriate and doesn't have any decent justification for why she's treating you like that.

Whenever I've had things I "don't want to get into" with my friends. It means that they've annoyed me in some way — but I know that the situation is not that they did anything really wrong but that I'm overreacting or being self-absorbed. If I have reason to be pissed off, I'll let them know what's bothering me.

[dr-dofuckall.livejournal.com]

Oh, bollocks to it. You ring her up wanting to know what the hell you're supposed to have done and she 'doesn't want to get into it'? I second Silverhill, she knows she's done wrong and can't/won't admit it. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life.
You have friends who love you, if she 'doesn't want to hang out with you anymore' let her go, she's not worth the hassle.
*hugs*

[zambonigirl.livejournal.com]

Sorry. It sucks. You have every right to feel used and abused.

[wolfma.livejournal.com]

Oh, another one of the "use them up" crowd.

Sounds like you're better off without her.

[nam-jai.livejournal.com]

What silverhill said above. I strongly endorse that, a lot, all of it.

And I don't think you were stupid to call her, either. It's reasonable to ask for an explanation, and a mature person would be able to give one. Especially after time has passed and the immediate emotional reaction to whatever it was you supposedly did should have subsided, allowing for some rational, adult discussion. Instead, she's going for some marathon silent treatment, and comes off looking petty, childish and unjustified.

[crossbow1.livejournal.com]

Ooo, did she use "if you don't know what's wrong, I'm not gonna tell you"? I love that one.

[brownkitty.livejournal.com]

I don't know how likely this is, but what may have happened was that her husband compared you favorably to her. Or her son may have.

If it's gotten to the point, for you, that you want to swat at her at little, I think you should forgive her, then tell her about it and refuse to say anything else. Don't tell her what you're forgiving her for. But then, I'm occasionally petty and evil.

::HUGS::

[thenorthernline.livejournal.com]

What the...

How old is this lunatic?

[meadowrue.livejournal.com]

Sounds to me like she is the one who isn't behaving like a friend, or an adult. If she had/has issues with you she should have brought them up at the time and this whole I'm not telling you just reeks of taking her toys home and not playing anymore. Lame. Sorry that your feelings and Charlie's friend are the casualties here. :(

[chavvah.livejournal.com]

A former friend of mine did something similar to me once upon a time... she simply stopped being my friend one day--quit returning my calls, punked out on our season tickets to the theatre--and the only reason I found out is because I ran into her at a party and she hella dissed me in front of a bunch of people. It was pretty harsh. I went home that night and cried my eyes out.

I don't mind if someone just doesn't want to be friends anymore. It hurts, but I get that it happens. But at least have the decency to tell me to my face.

Whatever her reasoning is, she's not being very mature about it. Judging from your original post, her original reason for being angry was pretty specious. I know you miss her, and you probably will hurt over this for a while, but it sounds like you're better off without her. Seriously? You are a great person, and a stellar mum. Don't let anyone tell you different.

[erynnef.livejournal.com]

Sounds like an Ebony. You're better off without!